Meet The Mama: Kwanele Mphofu

Hi Mama’s,

It’s a new week, so it’s time to introduce you to another Mama. Today I’ve featured Kwanele, a fairly-new-mom whom I “met” and connected with via social media a few years ago.

Thus far, I’m loving how we all have such diverse, yet similar experiences of motherhood.


How would you describe your pregnancy?

I will some it up in 5 words… Tiring, Emotional, Amazing, Uncomfortable and Adventurous


Did you have a birth plan for your daughter’s arrival?

I read a lot of birth stories and watched almost all the birth programmes on TV and then I realized that not all births go “according to plan”. I would say the only plan I had was natural birth and that ended up being a C-section and I was in hospital for a good 5 days. I have learned that the unpredictability of birth is part of what makes it so magical.


Kwanele M


How did you feel when you first met your daughter?

Those wonderful maternal feelings of joy that are supposed to come flooding in directly upon seeing the baby’s precious face kind-of missed me. My first thought was “and now what?”. I just couldn’t believe she was finally there and that she was “mine”. The fact that I was now her mum was just too big to grasp at that moment but I did feel this overwhelming feeling of responsibility for this tiny little human.


What is the one thing you always want your daughter to know?

Take all your worries to God. He cares.


What is the biggest challenge you experienced as a first time mom?

SLEEP!! I had unrealistic expectations especially with regards to sleepless nights, I expected the odd one or two, but not getting more than two hours sleep per night for the first three months was the reality. However I had lots of support from my partner and mum, but as I was breast feeding she was reliant on me to feed her.


What has been the best part of being a mother?

Oh everything! Watching her sleep and then smiling at me when she wakes up. Hearing belly laughs, little arms wrapped around my neck…I could go on & on. You don’t know what life is until you have a child. Then it’s like you can’t remember what life was like before you had a child.


What childcare/ support structure do you have for your daughter?

I have a live-in nanny who is very good with my baby, they are comfortable with each other and I think they like each other.



What surprised you the most about being a mother?

I can actually operate on 4 hours of sleep a night, for a very long time.


Thank you for sharing your journey with us Kwanele. I wish you all the blessings with Aza. 

If you would like to be featured next, please send me an email – I would love to have you :)

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1 Comment

  1. Yep!! The one thing I’ve learnt is a birth plan is just a plan it doesn’t always go according to plan.

    Amazing how we can function on little sleep 🙂 🙂

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