Motherhood isnt always pretty – it’s a fact. Yet, there are times when we feel like we have to suck it up and take it all in without showing or speaking up about our vulnerabilities. There is no doubt that we are more liberated than the generation of abo’mama bethu, who had to juggle all their duties without a single whine.
At times, when moms speak up about the challenges that come with motherhood, they are seen to be ungrateful, but I don’t see it that way at all. I believe that when you speak honestly about it, you are opening up yourself to more support from those close to you and stories of shared experiences with other moms. When I see brands like Baby Dove, embracing mothers with all their differences and complexities, I feel encouraged to remain authentic and comfortable about my openness. They believe there is no right or wrong way to be a parent – only YOUR way.
Take a look at these stats:
I can resonate with so many of these indicators. My mission is to do my best at all times instead of aiming for perfection.
I feel like a #RealMom when:
I decline a late meeting so I can make it home in time to enjoy bath-time with my babies
I love working hard and seeing things through and lately I haven’t been balancing my work and #momlife as well as I would like to. Khumo used to put up a big fight when it came to bath time, but over the last few months, she absolutely loves it and even wants to jump in again when it’s her brothers turn.
Being there for bath time really uplifts and calms me after tough day and fighting through the traffic. It’s fun and makes the perfect bonding opportunity after we’ve been apart for a day.
I talk to other moms
I believe perspective is everything. Once you share one of your parenting challenges, you will most likely find that others have it worse and it makes you feel a lot better and appreciative about your own “stuff”. It’s also where you can truly see that you’re not alone. We all have ups and downs.
I don’t fuss about the dirt
If I had to change my outfit or theirs every time there was a smudge of peanut butter or sand, I wouldn’t be able to afford washing powder, lol. Those stress-free playing moments are so priceless to me.
I attend my bi-weekly Pilates lessons
Not only does it help me to repair my abdominal separation and back issues from having babies, but it challenges me and it’s just about the only time I get to work out. If I’ve had a stressful day, I let my instructor know in advance and we tailor the lesson to a stress-relieving one.
Switch off the screens and cuddle
I’m naturally very affectionate and it’s really one of the traits that I would love to pass onto my children. I don’t have much “free” time so when I get the chance, I value the moments where we switch off all our devices and just chat, cuddle, read, take a long bath or tickle each other.
Ask for help
My mom and sister are usually my go-to people for this. Last week we took a trip to the zoo and my sister joined us. I honestly would not have been able to handle my toddler’s meltdowns if she wasn’t there to help me and do the rounds with my son so he could at least enjoy the trip. My support system is everything to me.
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