Meet The Mama: Karabo Medupe

This week I would like to introduce you to Karabo Medupe, a very dear and courageous friend of mine. We met a year ago at work and our friendship has flourished so beautifully. We have connected over our coinciding pregnancies, sharing life experiences, laughter and prayer.   Tell us about yourself and your family I’m a first time mommy of a 5 month old baby girl named Thoriso Onalerona “Praise […]

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How to visit parents of infants & not be a douche

Okay, so you’ve been invited (or invited yourself) to the home of a friend who has an infant. “It’ll be great”, you think. “I’ll breathe in all that beautiful baby smell ’til I’m delirious from all the cuteness. Plus they probably haven’t had visitors in ages, they’re just dying to have someone else in their home”. Then, you don’t get invited again or they’re always out of reach when you […]

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My pregnancy journey

In my previous post on welcoming my new baby, I promised to share the details of my pregnancy journey. Firstly, I would like to thank you all for the well wishes and prayers. It really is encouraging and means a lot to me. So here’s what happened: Finding out about my pregnancy: On an ordinary day in July, I woke up “feeling pregnant” – I wasn’t sick or anything, I just felt […]

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Dear Daddy… I choose to remember you as a great dad and not as the troubled man you sometimes were

This post was inspired by a series started by fellow blogger, Sinawo Bukani, who has set out to post a letter of gratitude to the people who have contributed immensely to the woman she is today. I couldn’t help but think of my dad, whom I lost 5 years ago, when I came across a letter she dedicated to her uncle. The image of the black man has been damaged so […]

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One-on-one with Modern Zulu Mom Part 1… Here’s what’s going on in my world

Twenty-odd days into the New Year and things are CRAZY! We moved into our new house over the first weekend of the year and my little man is now in grade 2 [HOW did we get here so quickly?!!!!] so our little family is having to adjust to several new routines and changes. I thought the punishment was over after it took 5 months to build and renovate!! Changes to […]

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Mommy budgeting strategies for the festive season and beyond

Many working moms are expecting to receive their salaries before Christmas next week – this means that there is an additional week or two to budget for before our next salary date at the end of January. You might have already done a mental budget and noticed that you can’t afford everything you need… It’s time to gear up and plan to manage your to-do list like a super-mommy. Now, […]

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Inhlawulo: When an unmarried Zulu woman falls pregnant

inhlawulo; When an unmarried Zulu woman falls pregnant

When an Zulu woman falls pregnant out of wedlock, there are firm traditional procedures to adhere to and inhlawulo usually comes into play. Even though we evolve and modernise quickly, this is one of the many practices I have noticed many families still uphold.   The process of Inhlawulo: Please note that I’m outlining the typical scenario, however, the exact account of events vary from family to family.   The (unmarried) woman will inform […]

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