I love connecting with other mommy bloggers and was pleased when Nandi gave me the opportunity to be featured on her blog www.johomoms.co.za. Please visit her blog – there are some powerful stories on there!
Here is my personal motherhood story that I shared with Johomoms:
The light of my life, Lesedi, arrived as predicted by all his prenatal scans, on the afternoon of the 31st of December 2008 via an emergency caesarean and following 10 hours of labour.
I had a difficult pregnancy that I associate with the emotional turmoil that was going on around me. Things weren’t going as planned – I was 21 years old, recently graduated from university and had just started my first corporate job. This escalated when my high school sweetheart decided that he didn’t want to be part of our lives anymore. I was left heartbroken six months into my pregnancy.
My sons birth is my greatest blessing. After healing from Post Natal Depression, I developed inexplicable strength and regained a sense of control over my life. Retrospectively, what appeared to be disappointment at first, turned into the privilege to “grow up” with my son in many respects and I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything.
Lesedi is a creative, respectful and independent boy. He is an only-child so he knows how to keep himself busy and generally never gives me a hard time, except that lately I can’t stop him from hinting about a little brother, ha! One of the goals I successfully managed to uphold strictly, was for him to learn our home language, isiZulu, before any other language. Going forward, my priority is to maintain an open relationship with him, support him and continue to instil solid values.
What I love about motherhood is that it presents many opportunities to keep bettering yourself . We moved out of my mothers house and into our own home in January this year as Lesedi was starting grade 1 and I was changing career paths. I felt like it was the right time to give him his own space and to challenge myself to grow in my role as his mother, outside of our family buffer.
The most significant thing I have learnt about being a parent is that your child doesn’t expect you to be perfect; they won’t judge you like the rest of the world does. Secondly, your support system is your lifeline, because life doesn’t stop when you become a mom. My family and partner have played a pivotal role in backing me over the last few years. Things will go wrong and you will make mistakes, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that you are your child’s real-life superhero.
Modern Zulu Mom