Finding the balance for everything that requires my attention has been one of the hardest things to do this year. It’s often said, that there is no such thing as balance – we do what we need to do, when we need to do it and I truly believe it! We cannot win every battle.
No matter how strenuous and tough life can be at times, I always try to find the lessons or the good in things (often in retrospect, because my first reaction is to be irrational, of course).
Take time out for yourself
I don’t think I’ll ever stop saying this to moms! We live in an era of constant busyness and information overload. Life demands so much out of us. Switching off and enjoying your own company or exploring your passions are basic luxuries we should be affording ourselves as much as we can (that’s why I think I’ll always blog, in some way or the other, because writing is my outlet).
Your health can take a serious knock if you reach burn out – it’s only March, but I’ve been there! Without a healthy mom, the whole family eco-system falls apart.
Build your support system
My work load is a bit crazy at the moment. I’m working on some really exciting projects that are energizing me and although stressful, it’s a nice space to be in. I really want to push and work hard on my career this year and I’m realizing that this will have an inevitable impact on my time with the kids (mid-week atleast). I cant even tell you how many swimming lessons I’ve caused them to miss!
I would not be able to do this without my family and nanny. When you have a support system, it’s important to use it, whether it’s to manage an emergency or to attend to my first point.
If you don’t live in the same town as your family, build relationships with friends and colleagues. We will always need other people.
Things won’t always work out the way you plan them. I know you know this, but its important to regain perspective at times and cut yourself some slack! There are so many things that I have dropped the ball on, so many times I’ve lost my temper with the kids and times where I have disappointed people that were relying on me. It’s a crappy feeling, but flexibility goes a long way. Your plan may not unfold as you hoped it would, but you will find another solution. You will get another chance. Things will work out eventually. Just know this.
Don’t fill up your whole weekend
I have noticed that I get really drained if every single weekend is “busy”. My Saturdays are already consumed with the children’s activities until lunchtime, then it’s birthday parties and errands. It’s just generally always a busy day, so I always feel rushed. I’m really finding it therapeutic to just chill with the kids on a Sunday, by that I mean, try not to leave the house; and if we do, it’s just to go out for lunch or to play. The more chilled my Sunday is, the less overwhelming my Monday is and new week is. It’s hard to turn down invitations to do stuff with friends and family, but sometimes you need to for your own sanity.
How do you find the time to “balance” things? Would love to get some pointers!
Modern Zulu Mom